hi,
I'm Bukky
If you're feeling anxious or depressed, and would like to talk to a professional, I can help.
I bring my confidential, caring nature to our therapeutic work, asking big questions, unlocking profound insights and supporting you to find a way forward.
Testimonial
"I have learnt so much and truly admire how effortlessly you were able to be everything I needed and more. I felt heard and seen. Thank you. I will miss our sessions and I will miss you dearly" - Former Client
Introducing Existential Psychotherapy: Clarity, Calm and Confidence for Women
A powerful
way forward.
When you searched for a therapist or group support today and found yourself here, it could be because you’re in clear crisis. Existential Psychotherapy: Clarity, Calm and Confidence for Women, can support you through this difficult time - whatever you're going through, be it:
Feeling sad
Issues in your relationship or marriage breakdown
Feeling worried all the time or anxiety
Having trouble talking to others
Feeling stuck in your career
Losing someone you love
Dealing with the after-effects of trauma
Panic attacks
Testimonial
"Words aren't enough to express the positive impact these sessions have had on my life" - Former Client
All about you.
Bukky knows that getting through transitional stages of life (like motherhood) or a crisis (like the loss of a job or loved one) is all about YOU: your resting up, your self-discovery, your practising emotional self-regulation, and your self-care.
At Existential Psychotherapy: Clarity, Calm and Confidence for Women, Bukky invites you to practice self-compassion, loving-kindness, and respect, repeatedly, so you can heal at your own pace. She invites you to make yourself a priority so you can get through the hardest of times - with your sanity intact.
Journey
From surviving,
to thriving.
Maybe nothing traumatic happened to you, and there is no diagnosed mental illness, but you want to:
✓ feel strong, empowered, better,
✓ be yourself and live freely and authentically,
✓ have great relationships,
✓ heal and change, and
✓ find your purpose.
If that sounds like you, therapy could help you. Whatever path brought you here today, individual or group therapy could be your key to going from surviving to thriving. It's helped so many women - just like you.
Your next level, awaits.
It's time to create the mental well-being that will take you to the next level. Existential Psychotherapy: Clarity, Calm and Confidence for Women, can help you focus, find balance, and embrace the changes of life. Having a qualified therapist to support you, is everything. Bukky has helped lots of women figure out who they want to be in their next chapter of life, and she can help you too.
The Existential experience. Therapeutic in every sense.
The world is changing, and women need a safe place to talk about their lives without judgment. Existential Psychotherapy: Clarity, Calm and Confidence for Women, is that place. Bukky offers a warm welcoming therapeutic experience and an intuitive practitioner who will walk alongside you to help you redefine your place in the world.
Testimonial
"Your encouraging and calming voice has slowly replaced the harsh critical voices that overshadowed me before" - Former Client
Meet Bukky.
Your Next Therapist.
Bukky is a corporate lawyer-turned-psychotherapist. She has a natural thoroughness, the ability to communicate difficult concepts, and an analytical, curious mind. Bukky is grateful for her formative experience in law. She feels privileged she can now make a positive impact by venturing outside of the legal system.
She now prides herself on applying her analytical brain to becoming a "serious therapy nerd". She can discuss relationships, human interactions, emotions, anxiety, depression, etc. in a relatable way that resonates with busy professional women. She avoids psychobabble, offers practical, usable tools and supports you in tangible ways to develop insights, identify patterns and implement practical solutions.
Bukky works in Kingston upon Thames. She likes to work in-person, in her therapy room or Walk and Talk therapy in Richmond Park. She also offers a limited amount of online therapy sessions.
She helps lots of women like you get out of their heads and start living the lives they want. She's supported women with all kinds of problems, from everyday stress and anxiety to healing from divorce, death and childhood trauma. So when she tells you that she can stand by your side through anything that life and work, might throw your way, she means it. She'll be here for you through it all. Let's start tackling the issues together. That way, you'll have the mental bandwidth to do more of whatever matters to you.
Caring. Curious. Challenging.
Many of the women Bukky works with are now showing up intentionally, feeling confident and connected with who they are, and are truly flourishing in their lives. When they first came to see Bukky:
✓ Bukky listens.
✓ Bukky helps them figure out what's really important.
✓ Bukky asks hard, existential questions that spark new ways of seeing old situations - and even better, seeing ways out of them.
✓ Bukky helps them let go of ideas that are holding them back.
✓ Bukky shares helpful resources and tools, and
✓ Bukky gives gentle accountability.
Now, these same women feel happier, more creative, less stressed, and more confident. They've found new purpose and optimism, one step at a time. You can too.
A proven therapeutic method.
Bukky's core values are:
Clarity
Learn strategies to uncover your purpose, make an important life decision, and live more freely and authentically.
Calm
Get the expert help you need with anxiety, depression, grief or loss, negative thinking, stress, anger, and worry.
Confidence
Discover the origin of your issues with your self-image, reconnect with your authentic self, and feel you are 'enough'.
Testimonial
"Thank you. You are doing God's work" - Former Client
Quick Facts About Bukky:
Bukky is a registered professional.
✓ Fully insured
✓ Registered and holds membership with the British Association for Counsellors and Psychotherapists (BACP) and abides by its code of ethics (accredited registration number 403730)
✓ Receiving regular supervision
✓ Has years of experience working in places like the Priory Hospital and NHS counselling services, and runs her own therapy practice for individuals and groups
✓ Has lots of experience mentoring and volunteering with vulnerable communities
Bukky is knowledgeable and highly trained.
✓ Highly trained in the latest mental health practices
✓ Has a Level 7 Advanced Diploma in Psychotherapy and Counselling from Regent’s University
✓ Actively continues to expand her knowledge of the latest mental health techniques and currently completing a master's degree in Psychotherapy and Counselling at Regent's University London (accredited, postgraduate-level)
✓ Specialises in common mental health problems (Depression, GAD, Social Anxiety, OCD, Panic, Phobias, PTSD, Health Anxiety) as well as uncommon areas such as Bereavement (particularly by Suicide) as well as less common areas like bereavement and intuition
✓ Adopts an integrated therapeutic approach that relies on neuroscience, attachment theory, and neuro-linguistic programming, whilst also drawing wisdom from spirituality, existential analysis and philosophy
Bukky offers supportive spaces.
✓ Believes in openness, honesty, trust and humour
✓ Has a flexible and open-minded approach
✓ Thinks it's important to embrace each others 'madness' and explore our differences
✓ Believes in the incredible powers of therapy to repair souls, expand minds, and lead to important insights
Bukky knows your unique struggle.
✓ Was a commercial lawyer for over a decade before becoming a therapist and understands the unique challenges to your mental health that come with a demanding career
✓ Worked within high-pressured, hyper-competitive environments, first for a Magic Circle law firm, and then for many years as a General Counsel in tech and brand giants
✓ Has worked with people from diverse backgrounds and communities (including with BAME clients, the racialised and the marginalised)
Testimonial
"Your support and gentle guidance has had such a remarkable impact on me and will stay with me forever" - Former Client
Here's what you get with Existential Psychotherapy: Clarity, Calm and Confidence for Women
A safe and
non-judgemental space.
Bukky acknowledges that distress and suffering are an understandable response to a traumatising world and offers you a non-judgmental, safe space to talk, scream, shout, swear, break down, rebuild yourself or simply just be. Bukky aims to walk alongside you as you explore all facets of your thoughts and behaviours, and begin to process and cope with the more challenging emotions. You'll find a safe, welcoming space where you can be yourself and work towards your goals, without judgment or preconceived notions.
Embodied healing.
Bukky's approach is grounded in the belief that healing comes from within, and that each person has the capacity to grow, change, and thrive. Existential Psychotherapy: Clarity, Calm and Confidence for Women, is a rejuvenating experience that offers a powerfully generative experience on a physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual level.
Therapy tailored,
to your needs.
Whether you're new to therapy or you've been before, Bukky aims to meet you where you are. Bukky believes there is no single path in your therapy, and encourages your uniquely personal and non-linear growth to emerge.
An active participant in your therapy.
Bukky recognises life as cycles of repetition and practice. Importantly, what we practice, grows. She is not a passive therapist in your journey of self-discovery. She is here to provide gentle accountability throughout your therapy and to actively support you to live a more enriching life filled with daily practices of embodiment, noticing, compassion, art, rest, play, radical acceptance, letting go, laughter, honesty, and much more.
Evidence-based techniques.
Bukky understands the demands of modern life and offers innovative techniques from some of the most recent, data-led therapeutic models (such as attachment theory, cognitive-behavioural therapy (CBT), and mindfulness-based approaches) in order to help you navigate life's complexities and achieve lasting positive change.
A powerfully relational experience.
Bukky has developed a unique approach to therapy that is rooted in empathy, curiosity, and a deep understanding of the human experience. Bukky's approach is rooted in compassion first and foremost. This means she aims to work with you respectfully and collaboratively to promote positive change in your life, and help you gain insights, so you can develop coping skills that serve you for a lifetime.
A truly integrated approach.
Bukky blends art and science in a unique and integrated approach to deliver you optimal results. Bukky combines the latest evidence-based techniques, with wisdom from age-old Eastern philosophy, Jungian psychology and existential analysis. She also continues to seek learning outside of what is institutionalised and deemed legitimate by academia, to ensure she offers you a complete experience on a physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual level.
Testimonial
"You have been the most patient, kind, gentle soul I've encountered in a long time" - Former Client
Key results Bukky's clients report:
Practical. Impactful. Transformational.
Bukky can support you with simple and effective therapeutic techniques — practical exercises selected to help you gain clarity, calm and confidence, and take your growth out of the theoretical world and into real life.
Discover new possibilities.
Get the expert help and gentle accountability you need to let go of behaviours that do not serve you, better understand your individual needs and cultivate new ways of being.
Discover an approach uniquely tailored to you.
Using a powerful combination of bespoke techniques, Bukky invites you to explore your unique life choices, become an agent of your own life and feel empowered by your individual personal growth.
Gain career insights. Inspire growth.
Bukky's uniquely intuitive and holistic package of support is designed to help you feel calmer, more confident, and 'good enough' in your role at work and at home.
Thrive in your relationships.
Bukky invites you to see how you fit with others in your world, own who you are in these dynamics and take agency of your life and your relationships. She can support you to gain understanding and find meaning in your experiences with others.
Explore your traumas and histories of oppression like never before.
Bukky recognises the structures and conditions that induce distress and suffering in this world, and so is particularly interested in supporting you to take up space and find your voice, where you are a racialised and/or marginalised person.
Tackle your imposter syndrome.
Bukky has worked with women, in particular, as they transition into senior roles and has supported them to overcome the unconscious internal conflicts which impede their progress, come into their own peace and feel easier with their professional success and visibility.
Get free from high-functioning anxiety.
Bukky works with high-achieving women, helping them break free from high-functioning anxiety, overwhelm and self-doubt.
Experience judgment-free therapy.
Bukky invites you to bring your most authentic self to be seen and heard without judgement.
Feel good enough.
Bukky can support you with rest, mindfulness, feeling emotionally attuned, and developing a more loving self-dialogue.
Explore your vulnerability.
Bukky's aim is to support you to develop the lost art of imperfection and nurture your softness and vulnerability.
Find your safe space.
Bukky offers a safe space to look inward, to think more deeply, and to deal with all the complex emotions that come with existing.
Maximise your potential.
Counselling and therapy is not only for those with serious mental health problems. They are powerfully effective and impactful ways to maximise personal potential and to develop and maintain a healthy emotional life in an increasingly stressful world of personal and professional pressures.
Unleash your creativity.
Bukky is committed to resolving issues of stifled creativity, over-critical self-image, and spiralling work/life balance.
Find direction, a plan, a way forward.
The thought-provoking exercises aim to leave you stepping readily into your own sense of direction, connection and belonging in the world.
Be 'happier'.
Bukky helps you find peace, be less worried, and better adjusted.
Get unstuck.
Bukky creates curious, explorative spaces, so you can get unstuck, dream big, delve deep and embrace who you truly are.
Find balance.
Bukky works with clients in high-pressurised careers to consider the powerful impact that their career choices and self-imposed expectations, have on every aspect of their lives, happiness and general well-being.
Quote
"You don't have a soul. You are a soul. You have a body" - C.S. Lewis
With her warm, compassionate approach and experience as a person-centred psychotherapist, Bukky is able to support you in the following areas:
Bringing expertise in
Relationship issues:
Whether you're dealing with communication problems, infidelity, or simply feeling disconnected from your partner, Bukky can help you work through these challenges and build a stronger, more fulfilling relationship.
Bringing expertise in
Anxiety and depression:
If you're struggling with feelings of worry, fear, or sadness, Bukky can help you develop coping strategies to manage these emotions and move towards a more balanced, peaceful state of mind.
Bringing expertise in
Trauma and PTSD:
If you've experienced a traumatic event in your life, such as abuse or a natural disaster, Bukky can help you process these experiences and develop tools to move forward in a healthy, healing way.
Bringing expertise in
Career and life transitions:
Whether you're starting a new job, moving to a new city, or facing other major changes in your life, Bukky can help you navigate these transitions with grace and confidence.
Testimonial
"Healing begins when you embrace your wounds" - Rumi
Frequently Asked Questions
What is therapy?
Therapy helps you feel better about your memories and experiences.
Counselling and Psychotherapy provide a pathway toward understanding your experiences and finding strategies that work uniquely for you. Therapy doesn't erase memories or experiences, but it can help you feel better about them. It's a way to feel calmer and understand things better. It's a process that, for many, leads to a greater sense of peace, understanding, and resolution. Sometimes, just talking about your thoughts can make you feel lighter. For deeper issues or long-lasting impacts, therapy can help you unravel patterns, understand their roots, and pave the way for new, healthier ways of living.
What happens in the first session?
We'll introduce ourselves to each other.
The first session is mostly about getting to know each other better. Bukky asks you questions, discovers what you need, and tells you more about how she aims to help people. We'll figure out together how to make our sessions helpful for you.
It's also important for you to feel comfortable with me. Studies show that feeling a strong connection with your therapist leads to more positive outcomes for you. This first session lets you see if you feel a connection.
How does Bukky help you?
Bukky uses different ways to help you and make them fit what you need.
Bukky works integratively, which means she blends different techniques, including principally Existential Therapy, but also Person Centred Therapy, Gestalt Therapy, Transactional Analysis, and other tailored methods to cater to your individual needs. It's about finding what resonates best with you and crafting a supportive approach that suits your journey towards healing.
Bukky is a Member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy and adheres to their Ethical Framework. Bukky holds professional liability insurance for her work.
Bukky has a wide range of experience with clients from a variety of backgrounds, having worked within the NHS as a Psychotherapist and in several private clinics, including The Priory Hospital Roehampton. Bukky currently offers private therapy in person at her clinic in Kingston.
Please feel free to phone or email Bukky with any questions you may have. Bukky can offer a 20 minute telephone call to see how you might work together.
Does therapy work?
Yes, counselling and psychotherapy are types of talk therapy that are evidence-based.
Counselling and Psychotherapy can be incredibly effective for many people. The goal is to create a safe, supportive space where you can explore your thoughts and emotions. All of the approaches Bukky incorporates in her therapy practice are evidence-based and are endorsed by the NHS NICE guidelines for clinical excellence.
Do you offer group therapy?
Group support available soon. Join the waiting list.
Group support is coming soon. Join the waiting list.
Bukky often hears from women who feel overwhelmed and want to connect with other mums like them. Many mums keep going without taking time to regularly reconnect with their communities and get the help they need.
That's why I'm excited to say that I'll be starting weekly women’s circles for moms in Kingston soon. Do you want to join the waiting list? You'll be the first to know when the groups start.
In these circles, you can:
Meet mums from different life stages. This may help you feel like you belong and give you a chance to share and get help.
Relax, grow, and heal with other women. Meeting regularly with the same group can help you feel comfortable and safe. We'll do exercises and check-ins to help you feel better.
Doing activities and talking with a facilitator who is also a mum aims to help you feel better and stay focused.
Talk about more than just kids. We'll focus on topics like mom stress and dealing with family. This can help you feel happier and more confident.
If you're interested, join the waiting list and fill out a short form:
How long does therapy take?
Therapy doesn't have a set time. Most people have 8-12 sessions, but we'll figure out what's best for you.
Therapy's like a good book—it's different for everyone! We usually meet for 50 minutes every week. Some people feel better after a few sessions, while others need therapy for a year or more. You can end therapy whenever you feel ready. It's up to you!
Typically, Bukky recommends an initial block of 6 weekly sessions. Then you can decide if you need more. However, you're always in charge of your therapy, and Bukky aims to take your lead on what you want.
How much does it cost?
Fantastically powerful. Surprisingly Affordable.
It's only £70 per session, for Walk and Talk therapy in Richmond Park.
It's £75 per session, if you choose to do in-person therapy from the clinic in KT2, Kingston upon Thames.
It's £95 to book an online session during one of my 'unsocial hours' (weekdays at 9pm, 10pm).
How do I get started?
Simply get in touch.
To set up your first appointment, contact me. You can say hi on Whatsapp or email Bukky at BukkyTheTherapist@gmail.com.
Let Bukky know your preferred time and day for an initial session, and Bukky can give you a call to confirm. You can also join the waiting list using the form below.
Your first appointment comes with no obligation to continue working with Bukky. During this session, you can tell Bukky what's bothering you, and Bukky can talk to you about how to help. After that, it's up to you if you want more sessions.
How can I contact you?
Still not sure?
Just want to chat?
Say hello on Whatsapp or email BukkyTheTherapist@gmail.com with a brief outline of why you are seeking therapy, and your availability for an initial session. You can also call +44 (0) 7803 368023 to arrange your free 📞 20-minute consultation with Bukky.
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